Updated: Feb 25, 2020
There is nothing more important for children than having their grownups’ acceptance, attention, and love. It is a deep biological/survival need that we often overlook.
Simple but heartfelt phrase like these will surely go deep into your child's heart and, with repetition, become guiding universal truths.
The way you talk to your children will become their inner voice when they grow up.
1. Amo ser tu mamá (o papá) - I love being your mom (or dad).
2. ¡Que gusto me da verte! - I am so happy to see you!
I use this phrase every time I pick up my son from school. I look into his eyes when I say it and follow it with a big hug. It puts the biggest smile on his face, and I know he can feel it is true.
3. Estoy muy emocionada(o) de pasar tiempo contigo - I am so happy to spend time with you.
4. Puedes contar conmigo - You can count on me.
This particular phrase carries a big responsibility with it. To be counted on means to listen, even if you need to bite your tongue. You will not judge, even if it scares you. You will be calm for your children, even if it takes twice as long to let them do or be. You will be the compassionate receiver of their stories, their tears, and their fears with understanding and forgiveness, because they already know if they have done good or bad.
5. Creo en ti - I believe in you.
6. No tienes que ser perfecto para ser maravillosa(o) - You don't have to be perfect to be amazing.
7. Estoy muy felíz de que estés aquí | Estoy agradecida(o) de tenerte - I am so happy that you are here. | I am thankful for you.
8. Eres útil - You are helpful.
9. Te creo | Confío en ti - I believe you. | I trust you.
This one is very useful when validating emotions, especially if your children seem particularly vulnerable while sharing something with you.
10. Te amo. Siempre te amaré - I love you. I will always love you.
Save a screenshot of this list or print it out and put it on your fridge to remind you of these phrases until they become part of your daily vocabulary. It will make a long-lasting difference in your connection with your child.
P.S. It is never too early to communicate loving messages to your baby!
See you soon in class!